I'm not going to moan on about the cold, although the good news is that we have had a break in the cold snap & it is warming up to snow.
Last week when I mentioned using Angel cards, several of you were interested to know more. I cannot stress enough, that there is no science behind my methods, I felt that the Angel cards were just as good a place to start. One of my sisters has a set of "Healing With Angel Oracle" cards. She was kind enough to loan me the manual of how to use the cards & the accompany explanation of each card.
|Instruction on how to use Healing With Angels Oracle Cards|
I don't have the actual cards, she wouldn't loan those, so I made up slips of paper with the corresponding numbers on the actual cards & placed them inside an Angel tin.
I sat with the tin for many minutes Focusing my mind on what I needed throughout the coming year & what should I use as my overall theme for the year. Then I drew out 12 slips plus 1. Then I sat with those slips & asked each month which slip I should pick for it ... and that's how I came up with my Angel suggestions for the year. My word for the year, Focus, is being supported by the Angel card I chose for overall, Study. My other three supporting words for Focus are; Attention, Observe & Mindful.
For January my Angel focus is on Friendships (Relationships). Jane Christmas, an author, who's book, "What The Physic Told The Pilgrim", (her story of her walk on Spain's Camino de Santiago de Compostela), has expressed pretty close to what I feel in several if not most of my friendships.
"For as long as I can remember, I have existed uncomfortably on the periphery of belonging. I don't have problems making friends or being a friend; I have a problem feeling like a friend who matters. "
So being mindful of my friendships, I have a couple of friends that I need to focus on & come clean with, I need to tell the person(s) of how I am feeling within our friendship. Lots of stuff has gone into my morning pages about these feelings.
My style with "K" has been to retreat when she is unkind in her remarks or treatment of me. She has often cancelled arrangements when she has a better offer to do something with someone else.
In my relationship with "P", I definitely feel as a definite after thought. Just before Christmas we arranged to meet for tea at my house at an agreed upon time & when she didn't show up or call, I was first worried that something happened. Once I got hold of her, she said she forgot, no apology. I didn't say anything to her about how hurt & angry I was, I just said, well at least you're OK & not in a car accident.
I have made arrangements to meet both these ladies some where that we can quietly discuss our friendship. I would like to keep these friendships but just in a way I feel more respected & valued.
I also have a lunch date this week with a friend who I know values our time spent together & I am going to give the attention to her & tell her how I value our friendship.
Have you ever given any friendship or relationship a tune up?
"True friendship isn't about being there when it's convenient; it's about being there when it's not." from Heart Felt Quotes